Living with Roommate who… has a significant other

One of the most sensitive situations with a roommate can be their boyfriend or girlfriend. If you or your roommate is in a long-term relation­ship, there is certain etiquette that should be followed to ensure that three doesn’t become a crowd.

First of all, be open about your relation­ships, and ask your roommate to do the same. If your room­mate’s girlfriend or boyfriend is becoming a problem early on, sit down and have a chat. Even if you and your roomie are current­ly single, there’s still a chance a relationship could develop – so it’s good to be open and honest before an issue is even on the horizon.

After the discussion has been completed, set some ground rules. Your roommate may think it’s silly at first, but this is a great way to hold each other ac­countable. It’s good to get ahead – so consider all possible arguments, and have a plan in place in case they arise.

Remember to be positive and stay open-minded. It’s im­portant to remember that your roommate found a loving part­ner, and that’s a good thing. If this person is staying overnight, your roommate is probably pretty happy with the situation. It’s import­ant to put this into per­spective: Even if you don’t get along with your roomie’s partner, you should be happy that your friend has found a special person. With that in mind, re­member that it is your room, too. If boundar­ies are not respected, ask a friend to step in as a mediator. If prob­lems persist, you may need to contact your Resident Assistant for help. It’s your RA’s job to help with problems like these so be sure to utilize them.

Don’t forget: Your friends’ significant oth­ers can become your own lifelong friends. With some reasonable boundaries and a good attitude, you can turn a potentially disagreeable situation into an op­portunity for happiness and friendship